1 Timothy 5:1-2

We call the Church a family of faith, but families aren’t always functional. Families can be plagued with jealousy, contempt, resentment, fighting, and hatred. Families can be plagued with co-dependency, control, unrealistic expectations, unfair treatment, and abuse. The word “family” isn’t always a picture of a loving group of people who are gathered together. Next week is Thanksgiving. Not every table will have harmony.

I’ve been asked what it was like growing up with five girls in the family (with one bathroom). Some have marveled that we are all still friends after seventy years. I tell people we weren’t allowed to not get along. We were raised to be friends.

That’s not to say there was never conflict. We are human. There was tension and disagreements on occasion. But I don’t remember getting away with harsh words toward one another. Mom and Dad never laughed at or ignored those times of conflict. (my sisters might remember things differently. But I doubt it).

Paul tells Timothy that we should treat each other in the church like family. For some that might bring to mind an unhappy picture. But in these two verses I think we can read that we are to treat each other with gentleness when there is an issue, be respectful. And I think that’s easier done if a problem is addressed immediately, before it gets out of hand.

And, I think this might be the key to a functional and loving family of faith: God is saying we are not allowed to not get along.